Today I'm going to talk about the courtship ritual. Many people today have forsaken social or serial dating. Forgoing "Social Dating" means giving up the traditional black book/different female every week and instead choosing one woman to spend your time with.. Determining weather she's the one you can see in your life... for the rest of your life.
While this has it's intrinsic problems. For one, discerning one person can be time consuming and somewhat problematic... because the one you select may in fact be serial dating. There's nothing wrong with this but just like women don't like to feel like one of many... Men equally don't want to feel like they're one of many. Even if the reality is that if she's attractive, there will be multiple male suitors vying for her attention. The obvious question is to separate yourself from the crowd. RECOGNIZE every man will bring her flowers and candy... think outside the box & DON'T DO THAT... BE CREATIVE.. make yourself the one that she thinks about during the day... However, once you get her attention you must keep her attention by treat her well. What was true yesterday is true today... how you date.. is how you marry... if you're easily angered, dismissive, inconsiderate or rude of other people... then it's not a far stretch for her to believe that you will be that way towards her..
Scripture give us a some practical ways to earn her respect, loyalty and love... Remember women are forward thinking... you may be thinking about second date.. she's thinking about marriage and beyond..
Stay consistent in your temperament and treatment of her (& others you both encounter... she's looking at the way you treat other people too)... I Peter 3:7, teaches that the husband is to honor his wife. She gave up her name to take yours. Honor means that you should show her respect and this involves courtesy, consideration and emotional support. Be sure that as her husband that you do not hold her up to ridicule in public by the cutting remarks that you make. She wears YOUR name and is to viewed as part of your body. She is not perfect and you are aware of this. Do not expect perfection, but as Ephesians 4:32 teaches, "forbear one another". This means to be gentle toward her. Control of temper, abstaining from physical violence and restraining a sharp tongue that makes one feel so inferior - are ways by which you can exhibit forbearance.
Start your relationship with good practices of mutual respect. Maintaing control over your attitude and temperament goes a really long way in making her feel secure about being with you and seeing a longer term relationship with you
The point is you may never get married.. but when you begin to treat her a certain way, she' will respond favorably to that treatment
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