But no one is marrying or dating seriously the party girl…. At 20 its cute, as an undergrad we all partied.. smoked weed.. and had meaningless sex..……. At 30 its desperate…. And if you’ve ever met the over 30yr old party girl you know she’s exactly the one you would never see building a life with… No man wants to imagine his woman in the club shaking her ass… and no good relationship can be started or sustained in a nightclub….
The problem is, most party girls are really nice people…. The dichotomy is that by the time you’re 25-30 you’ve realized that every night club is the same.. Same lame people trying to drown their problems in alcohol… or trying to represent a lifestyle that’s not sustainable. ($30,000/yr millionaires)
I’ve seen dudes pop bottles in the club only to re-fill those same bottles with water in the mens room… I’ve seen women get drunk mixing alcoholic beverages and ended up in some mans bed that they don’t know..... BALLIN, with no one to wipe the tears
The party girl at some point in her life tries to re-market herself.. Sometimes it’s a transformation that comes with maturity or spiritual calling, Sometimes it’s the realization that she’s not the hottest thing in the club anymore… Whatever the case she has an epiphany that forces a change in her mindset..
The problem:… People remember you as the party girl.. in a city like Atlanta, the party girl reputation precedes most women (because they're invited to every party)… Contrary to what you heard men do talk.. It starts in high school as overzealous bravado… It continues through life as sort of a Internet of information… Men speak about who they smash and who’s been a challenge to smash… party girls come at different elevation levels
Men will often times observe the actions of women and when they’re seen all over the place, at every party, club, etc…. They will either shy away from that woman… or Attempt to smash it … But understand gentlemen… there is a line of men before you and after you waiting for their shot with her…. Party girls most times don’t understand this.. They believe their beauty is what’s drawing the attention… NOPE!!!
What men seek is a woman who hasn’t given her heart to men with ease… One who hasn’t given her body away with ease… One who hasn’t invested time with a slew of men with ease… EVEN IF THAT IS ONLY PERCEPTION AND NOT REALITY
I’ve long counseled people that image is everything, and perception is reality. Even if you’re the demure conservative chick at heart.. .but your social network page is slathered with party pictures and/or pictures with a variety of men.. This is an instant turn off for most men.
The reality is.. its 2011… Every woman over 30 that you meet will have had one intense romantic relationship… One man who’s made her scream…. One man who’s she devoted everything to…. And one man who’s broken her heart… and if you're really lucky hasn't been left with some mans children to take care of on her own..
Perhaps the party girl is masking her pain… perhaps the party girl is a free spirit who seeks other free spirits… perhaps the party girl is rebelling from strict parents… and perhaps the party girl just hit a new city and wants to experience everything the city has to offer…
Irrespective of the reason… the party girl is being observed from her twitter and facebook account to how she conducts herself publicly…. Perception is still reality!!!! Most men will not commit their lives to that perception... And if you're the party girl, you cannot nurture that perception!!!
Truth is, there are plenty of “Dimes” out there.. but 10 dimes is only a dollar… Dimes are as common as gravel.. and as easily thrown away.. They say Diamonds are a girls best friend. Really they’re a man’s best friend.. A man of purpose wants something rare, something he has to search to find....not something common… Men of purpose and vision want to see the woman in their life as a compliment to that vision … And when you’re as common as gravel because you’ve fostered a reputation as a party girl, don't expect too many quality men to come your way...
Men may like you even respect you… But marriage??? Naaah son!!!
So, My advice to you gentlemen… If you’re still chasing party girls.. do your thing.. but you know that’s not going to last…. To the party girls, make yourself a rare commodity and watch how many more quality men you attract…
Remember, Diamonds are rare and you have to go find them… Dimes are everywhere and pretty much worthless... especially given inflation.
Editor: DNYC
I see your point. Men want a phreek in sheetz and a lady in the streetz. However, you do know that the phreeky lady in sheetz likely learned that technique in the streetz. What I'm saying is most women are reformed party girls....especially that one you want to marry! The thing about women, is they are often adept at transformation. Her reputation may precede her at some place and space but a relocation can give her a new life. Also, you might be surprised that there are some "good men"...maybe that guy that used to be the geeky guy with glasses or the fat boy....has made a transformation physically but not emotionally and now has some means..and wants to fulfill his fantasy and actually marry the hoe! LOL...yeah kewl guys like yourself probably can't relate...but you might be surprise to find that some dude with that pretty, nice respectable looking wife....is really the hoe.
ReplyDeleteA party girls will try to make s transformation, but she will always ruin any possible, good relationship with a man.
ReplyDeleteEventually, that geeky guy with glasses or the fat boy ... finds a regular girl.
The fantasy is never to Marry a hoe. A hoe will embarrass you in front of your friends and family no matter how much she tries to transform. She can be charming, but never loyal.
The "Good men" have common sense and is not mislead by lust or a big & a smile. And any woman that aims to hide her past or mislead a "good man" is not being honest and does not understand anything about trust, integrity or trust.
Good Luck.