Gentlemen, I’ve just begun reading a book by Eric and Leslie Ludy – When God Writes Your Love Story… The book was highly recommended at Lifeway Christian Book Store for those entering into a relationship or those seeking to find the love of their life.. The book's premise is allowing God take the pen of your life and writing your love story.. He can write a much more beautiful story than I can, so I really have no problem with the concept. Through scripture we can learn how to love and heal ourselves in order that we can be loved..
So, I ask the question where did love go wrong, because there is so much bitterness, anger, resentment, animosity between men and women today that it is almost impossible to love or find love
Many women in metro Atlanta voice concerns about the man possibly being gay, and if he’s not they’re suspicious of any man who smiles at them or approaches with the slightest iota of kindness.. Then the flip side, those same women will and often do jump on facebook or other social media complaining about NOT being able to find a good man..
Many men cite the 500:1 men to women ratio, and generally respond to that abundance of women by acting childish. Those same men don’t trust women or respect themselves enough to understand that it is better to love One woman a million ways, than it is to love one million women one way…
It wasn’t always like that… men carping at women for the trife women they’ve encountered… women complaining about men that they’ve allowed into their lives only to make a mess of their lives..
Yet, while our ideas of love and relationship are often romanticized. We don’t believe that agape love can exist or will for us… so we walk around with a chip on our shoulders, unwilling or unable to trust anyone… and love escapes us all
Our image of love needs to at some point jive with our mental perception of what it should be. In a healthy whole relationship love should be pure. The expression and action of love should have a child like innocence. The hurt and pain of your past should disappear, and you should be as happy as Thumper and Bixby….
In the end Gentlemen… The arguing, discontent, mistrust and hurt that you may feel is your hurt. You should never project that on to the next person or take baggage from the last relationship into the next one…
Gentlemen, take some time in between relationships to figure out where the last one went wrong, and what your culpability is in that failure… It took two people to enter into the relationship. It took two people to make that relationship fail… Understanding that is the first step towards you having a healthy future relationship
When you find love, cherish it.. Protect it.. And provide for its health… Its up to you Gentlemen.. Now go and love somebody
Editor - DNYC
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