Tuesday, November 15, 2011

Editorial - Angry Black Men & Social Media



Editorial: Ladies and Gentlemen.... The Beauty of Black Relationships is shutting down in 30days.... it should be sooner!!!!!

Since Saturday, I've watched an insulant child lash out at a woman (his ex) on facebook because she decided to leave and no longer tollerate his long rants, bloviated statements, Insults, loathing, and pure hatred of black women. Under the guise of taking the black family back... My observation is that he attempted to masque his hatred of black women, PERIOD!!!...  

Let me say for the record... he won't be missed... It becomes problematic as a man, for you to decry single unwed black mothers and Black Women on a daily basis... Where was your wisdom when you moved this woman into your home (that you say you love) in a 3 month relationship without properly discerning her character.... Where was your morality when you got that woman pregnant.... Where was the love when you complain about that woman on a daily basis (she doesn't cook.. she doesn't clean... bla bla bla).. Where is the respect when you assail and insult her mother and sister for the choices they made in life that led them to being single black unwed mothers..... How is it beautiful Become hostile toward all black women calling them bitter, contemptuous, hostile towards black men, traitors to the black family etc...... She left because until you put a ring on her finger, her loyalty isn't to you.... ITS TO HER FAMILY....

You take no responsibility for YOUR choices in bringing that woman into your home without discerning her character... You fail to look at your culpability in making her EXACTLY WHAT YOU DECRY... A SINGLE UNWED BLACK MOTHER.... Fail to honor her, love her, and respect her... You allow your hurt/pain to rule your attitudes toward black women while selfishly and foolishly believe that YOU WEREN'T THE PROBLEM.... so you lash out... 

Over the next few days what we saw was absolutely ridiculous... A man posting the name of the woman, her mother, her sister... Continuing to insult her, putting her family business out on social networking... AND STILL YOU TAKE NO OWNERSHIP IN YOUR PART IN THIS.... Its absolutely disgusting to watch a SELF PROCLAIMED "good black man" demonstrate to the world THAT HE'S NOT.... This is why I'm consistently telling men not to parrot that "i'm a good dude" bullissht..... Let your actions speak louder than your words....

When the woman that you've insulted and patronized for 90days leaves, you lash out... You demonstrate no maturity, no self control, no love for a person who you claimed to have loved. You compound your own HURT by creating a page called "the beauty of interracial relationships...... What???????

You sir will not be missed.... Good Riddens!!!!!

Gentlemen, Lets be very clear about this.... No matter how many ill, negative, angry, contemptuous, false bravado clad black women I meet or interact with... I CAN NEVER ASSIGN THE ACTIONS OF A FEW TO THE WHOLE.... Second, Men do not go in (attack) women on a public forum.... If she chose to leave without any closure, phone call, text..etc.... Let her leave... It must always be her choice whether to stay or go..... IT IS UP TO YOU TO GIVE HER A REASON TO STAY.... because she will damn sure find a reason to leave if you give her one.... 

DNYC - Moderator/Editor "Year of the Gentlemen/Return of the Gentleman"