A Servant's Spirit

Good Morning Gentlemen and Merry Christmas.

Over the last year the focus of this blog has been to encourage you to be Gentlemen. It takes a unique kind of person to be a gentleman.  It is said that not every woman is a lady, but every lady is a woman…. The same holds true here!

Yes you can be a man, strong, independent, and capable of handling your own business. You can have career, clothes, wealth and women. However, Lets be clear… NONE of that makes you a Gentleman NONE OF IT

What it takes is a servant’s spirit. It takes a desire to ALWAYS put other people first. From the wait staff at the restaurant, to the elderly lady needing a go ahead of you in the supermarket….. and yes, to the woman that you are courting.

I’ve stated from the beginning that women desire consideration, consistency and stability… Each of those character attributes requires you to be selfless in everything you do… It cannot be something you fabricate temporarily to win her heart, she’s looking at how consistent you are!!!

Matt 23:11-12 “The greatest among you will be your servant. For whoever exalts himself will be humbled, and whoever humbles himself will be exalted”

There is a lot of false bravado amongst us men… We come off cocky and arrogant. We front who we are to our male friends, and even to some women who take the bait and go for everything that’s fake….

A truly humble man will be a servant… Self sacrificing in everything.. Giving of all….. NOT to impress any one woman…. But to make a difference in the life of HIS WOMAN.

When she comes to your home, are you ensuring she got something to drink or do you make her plate… do you wash her dishes and turn over the remote. Do you hold her hand as she steps out of the car… do you help her with her coat…. When you’re in bed do you make sure she’s pleased before you race to the endzone…. Are you helping her financially when she needs it.. emotionally when she cries…. Are you there just to here her vent her frustrations over work…

Gentlemen, you know if you are selfish…. Or selfless… YOU know whether you are a giver or a taker… YOU know that you walk around believing the world revolves around you or not…

Selflessness and sacrifice is sometimes difficult. However, far too many men want a woman who can cook… clean… and be willing to serve their every need…. But are unwilling to do the same…

The only place you can look is the mirror to understand whether you have a servants spirit…. I encourage you to drop the false bravado… leave behind concerns of what others will think… Be the person you desire… and the person you desire will manifest in your life.

You can be great in her eyes… and greater in her heart ….. Because, the truth is…. “the greatest among you will be your servant”


Merry Christmas
Editor - DNYC

Our Women Need Us

Good Afternoon Gentlemen, Today I’m speaking directly to you…. Directly about the nonsense that our women go through for you.. About the heartache they feel when you abandon them.... About our mothers... our sisters... our daughters.... our wives... our women!!!!!

They’ve been screaming out for over forty years that they need us.. They need us to take our hands off our cracks.... They need us to stop scratching our balls and put down the false bravado.... They need us to stop playing playstation…. They need us to stop going to jail…. They need us to stop walking around like thugs with our pants below our buttocks… They need us to be responsible fathers and friends.. They need us to put down all of the childish attitudes and behaviors of boys... and BE MEN!!!

Our community is dying men… Black men desire to go to jail and not college.. Black men want to have sex and not be fathers…. Black men are substance abusers or illegal substance sellers.. Black men would rather spend their money on 26” rims than spend their money building wealth

Gentlemen we’ve been here for 400 years… Through slavery and oppression we’ve stood by our women. When we didn’t have the means we held our families together. We went to wars for this country and came home to build families and communities… Even in our darkest days we supported each other as men. However, our community seems to be going backwards.... We simply can no longer blame it on "the man" oppressing us... the school system not educating us.... or any of the other post traumatic slave syndrom that has become the default excuse....

Over the last 50yrs we’ve had everyone influencing our women… EXCEPT US…  We’ve had Gov’t force us out of our homes so that our women can get AFDC, Section 8 and Food Stamps….. We’ve had desegregation empower black women to have jobs and be self sustaining WITHOUT US… We’ve allowed the Oprah Winfrey’s of the world screaming their feminist garbage to our women without any thought of Us

We’ve abdicated our responsibility as men… We’ve allowed this to happen… Our children are growing up not knowing what a father is…. We have more baby mommas than wives… Our boys are growing up emulating their mothers , as a result we’ve got an explosion of Gay Black men or Down Low men who don’t think having sex with a man makes them gay…. Our daughters are being sold into prostitution… They believe they must be a stripper or stripper type to be accepted… Music video by us men reinforce that message…. Our Daughters are getting pregnant at younger and younger ages… ALL OF THIS BECAUSE WE’VE ABDICATED OUR RESPONSIBILITY.... We've turned our back on God and as a result Satan and Chaos has taken over our homes and our communities....

Gentlemen, this is a call to arms… Our women need us… Our families need us… Our children need us… They need us in college… They need us in church/mosque/synagog....  They need us out of jail…. They need us to stop promoting criminality…. They need us to take our rightful positions in our homes…. They need us to take our rightful positions following God, Allah, Jehova… or whomever you call God….. They need us to begin building generational wealth… They need us to be fathers… husbands… and pillars of the community....

Gentlemen, they need us... Grab her hand and hold on like your life depends on it!!!!! Because it does.....

Editor, DNYC