Residential Dating

Residential Dating:

Gentlemen, given that there are economic struggles and the fact that dating is expensive (relatively). The average meal for two people costs anywhere from $60-100 or more… We must discuss the issue of Residential Dating

Definition – Residential Dating is having a date at her home or yours

There are some important things to remember…

1. Every date cannot be a residential date

2. Your appearance and dress be the same as if you were going out

3. You will not go into any room of the house except dining and living room

4. She’s trusting you in her home, don’t leave toilet seats up

5. Do not search her medicine cabinet or peek into personal items

6. Do not take your shoes off and put your feet up on the couch

7. Help her clean up after the meal

8. Bring a bottle of wine or flowers (do not show up empty handed)

9. Do not expect sexual intimacy (respect her home)

10. Do not touch her… until/unless you’re in an exclusive relationship

The same rules should apply if she’s coming to your home for a residential date with a few additions

1. Clean the entire house especially the kitchen (putting all dishes away)

2. Clean the bathroom thoroughly

3. Do not dominate the TV (correction NO TV unless it’s a movie you agree to)

4. Even though it’s your home, dress as if you were going out

5. Offer her hospitality, you are the host… keep the wine chilled

6. Learn how to set a table with appropriate flatware

7. Have photos of your childhood to spark conversation

8. Make sure you have everything … Supermarket runs are a distraction

9. Turn off all phones in the house

10. Turn off any computers or anything that will be distractions

Last: gentlemen.. Leave her home at a respectable time.. and if she's at your home, make sure to get her home at a decent hour... it's a date... not a sleep over...

She’s trying to see you in your environment, Be the perfect host, and the perfect Gentleman. Also, be yourself, this is your home and she doesn’t need to see your “representative”… Be natural.. be yourself....

Many women believe that how you date is how you marry… be consistent in your courtship ritual , put good habits in place so whether you’re residential dating or going out she sees the same person. If she’s important enough for you to begin planning a life w/ her… then your cleanliness, courtesy, appreciation, and attentiveness to her are critical.

Editor - DNYC