Parable of the Sower

Gentlemen, Today I want to discuss Jesus’ parable of the sower as it relates to what you sow and the harvest you will take in.

It is clear, we are known by the fruit that we bare. If we sow bad seed we will reap a bad harvest.  In the Parable of the sower Christ spells this out in very clear terms

Matthew 13:3-8 (NIV) “Then he told them many things in parables, saying: “A farmer went out to sow his seed. As he was scattering the seed, some fell along the path, and the birds came and ate it up. Some fell on rocky places, where it did not have much soil. It sprang up quickly, because the soil was shallow. But when the sun came up, the plants were scorched, and they withered because they had no root. Other seed fell among thorns, which grew up and choked the plants. Still other seed fell on good soil, where it produced a crop—a hundred, sixty or thirty times what was sown. “

As you walk through life you will sow your seed in one of the four places that Christ lays out. So lets discuss the four places you’ll sow your seed..

• Scattered on the path for the birds to consume: In verse 4, Christ said “As he was scattering the seed, some fell along the path, and the birds came and ate it up” …. Using the vernacular and culture of today, let me break this down… When you spend your time, energy, and resources on a female who isn’t worthy “a chicken head” …. That bird will do what birds do, use them up and leave you with nothing. Her only goal in life is to consume… Thus, because she’s a consumer she’s easy to spot. The faux fashionista, the “diva”, the gold digger…. You know them by many of these pejorative names… In the end… IT IS YOU who decide that you’re going to sow your seed (waste your time) on this type of person. She is that path that nothing grows on and no one can grow with because she consumes all you have 

• Scattered on Rocky places: in verse five and six Christ says “Some fell on rocky places, where it did not have much soil. It sprang up quickly, because the soil was shallow. But when the sun came up, the plants were scorched, and they withered because they had no root”… Gentlemen, you know this type of person as well.. Shallow, superficial, dumb as a box of rocks.. Concerned with looking good but not with being good. People who are superficial you don’t AND CAN’T see your future with. You may sow your seed by spending time with her, but that relationship will never last. You know it from the moment you meet her. She’s vapid and cannot hold a conversation. Knows nothing of current events but knows every brand name. She’s a slave to vanity… She’s the rocky place that has no depth and when your harvest comes in it will wither and die because this woman is shallow.

• Planted in Thorns: in verse Seven, Christ says “. Other seed fell among thorns, which grew up and choked the plants”…. Gentlemen, you know this woman as well.. She’s the drama queen.. A problem around every corner. She invites drama and has a way of never letting it grow. She may be attractive to start the relationship, but her drama, issues, or baggage will not allow that relationship to grow. She chokes the relationship with her issues.. Stay away from her.. The seed you sow in her through spending time and trying to make it work will be fruitless.. you will be frustrated and at the lack of growth.. She lacks the clarity of spirit to allow anything to grow in or around her.. She will choke you out and the relationship will die.

• The good soil: Christ says in verse eight “. Still other seed fell on good soil, where it produced a crop—a hundred, sixty or thirty times what was sown.”…. Gentlemen, you know this woman as well. She has a heart of gold. She checks in on you when you’re not feeling well, she is concerned about your career growth, personal development, spiritual growth and your health.. She’s not trying to burn a hole through your credit card, or date everyone of your friends, frat, or family. She may be a home body.. she may be committed to community service… she may be the woman that’s in church 3 days a week… She’s constantly enriching herself to be a compliment to your life. This is the woman you see yourself with through eternity.. She’s not perfect, she has her share of flaws, but she’s working affirmatively to correct those flaws and they don’t distract you from your walk. The fruit that you bare by sowing seed (spending time and giving your life) to this woman is a more whole existence. You may be good by yourself… but she definitely makes you better. 

Gentlemen, you have an opportunity to discern where you are going to spend your time and with whom you’ll spend it with.. This metaphoric sowing of seed will bare you fruit that is either good… or bad… Some women will deny they’re the bad seed but give it time… you’ll see exactly who they are and what they are over time.. Don’t be distracted by the bug light of her beauty, her booty or anything else that may look attractive…

Remember this… What’s good to you isn’t always good for you… Discern properly who you are going to pursue so that you’re not sowing your seed on bad soil

While I always assert that men are the pursuers and women are the pursued… Women get to choose who they want in their lives.. There’s no way around this reality… some women will deny it.. but find me any woman anywhere who doesn’t have at least one man chasing her.. whether she want’s him or not… he’s still chasing her… We as men can only discern if a woman, or any woman is worth pursuing…

Why… Because the seed you sow will eventually produce a harvest… and you must ask yourself what type of seed you’re going to sow…

Editor - DNYC