Gentlemen, It’s been a while since I’ve contributed to this blog. Having been on facebook and seeing the thoughts of men and women… One thing becomes abundantly clear….
WOMEN DON’T UNDERSTAND THAT THERE’S A “B” SIDE TO THE MENU
A lot of men operate on a quid-pro-quo type of mentality… Pay to Play!!! It’s not game but no one ever says exactly what it is…
Deny it if you must there is a primal need for all men to compete for the best, healthiest, most fertile women to pro-generate our seed. This has nothing to do with commitment, marriage, monogamy etc…. it has everything to do with survival of the species. Women have a biological clock, which many women don’t understand is their primal instinct to have children and survive one more generation.
Fast forward the evolutionary clock a couple of thousand years, mix in some cultural and societal changes and here we stand in 2011 with the same primal mind..
What is the “B” side of the menu…. In order to attract women, the mating ritual in 2011 is to become as attractive to women as possible… What are women attracted to you might ask yourself… Well the answer is SECURITY…. Physical security for their children (even future children) and themselves, Which is why women desire physically fit strong men … Financial Security, which is why men of financial means have the choice of the BEST women… Emotional security…, which is why a woman needs to feel loved and safe with her man….
In return, Women have up until the 1960’s had given themselves sexually, most times in marriage, to men who provide her SECURITY .. After the 1960’s centuries of human interaction changed with the sexual revolution… Women took power of their sexual being with "free love" and men saw free love as an opportunity to have … free love… Love without commitment or responsibility
THUS THE “B” SIDE OF THE MENU WAS BORN…
Whether you know it or not, men always know when you’re selling…. And those with the means to pay for it usually will. However far too often women expect something in terms of commitment after that “quid-pro-quo” of casual sexual contact when in fact they were selling it all along?? How did sexual penetration turn to the expectation of commitment??
Simply put, a man spends money on meals, movies, concerts, vacations, etc… He’s generally not doing it for grins and giggles. There is very much an expectation of sex
Many a woman has played cute trying to trap a man by having children thinking he’s going to be around… Many a woman has believed that there was more to the relationship then just a casual sexual thing…
Women look at the menu… order the appetizer, entre, and desert…. Then have a hard time understand that after the meal is over and the check has been paid…. That the “B” side of the menu has a cost to it as well.. For men, money = power… And whether a man spends $100 or $10,000 … the expectation (real or percieved) is that you play
Fact is men can have a physical relationship and it mean absolutely nothing. We are socialized from playboy magazine and other types of porn to have sex with no meaning.. Gentlemen I tell you this is true, there is a 3mo time limit on that type of sexual activity.. She’s going to develop feelings and have expectations for you and it’s best if you’re not serious about her to cut it off before 3mo..
Some men can temper this “B” side instinct, some cannot… some men have matured to the point in their discernment that they’ll only pursue women who are “wife” material.. Others pursue chicken heads, hood rats, etc… just to have sex with
So men, check your motivation… If at the end of the evening you drive home upset that you didn’t get any from the woman that you just spent $100… 200…300 for dinner…. Then your motivation was the “B” side….
Women, do not be offended... Do not say "I'm not a prostitute"... Just because you're not standing on a corner w/ a pimp doesn’t mean you’re NOT selling it… You are advertising every time you step out the door… rationalize it how you must… but the low rise jeans or the bush high skirt… the breast popping out of your top… the coy flirty demeanor… maybe you need a utility bill paid… or a car note…. rent.... You’ve simply justified your behavior…
The bottom line is there is always a “B” side…. As a gentlemen, if you’re not considering that woman as wife material…. She’s a “b” side chick…
Editor - DNYC
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