February 15, 2011 – The DAY AFTER!!!!!!

February 15, 2011 – The DAY AFTER!!!!!!

Good morning Gentlemen, I have a problem!!!! First, I’d like to welcome you to the winter of love.. it’s 02.15.2011 the day after…. NOW WHAT?? Today  is 02.15.2011..... what are you going to do to demonstrate your love for her today… or tomorrow… or the next day.. or the rest of the year…

For the entire day yesterday on facebook if you did or said nothing you could literally watch the lamentations of our single female counterparts gripe about being single, lonely and perhaps even a bit angry on Valentines Day… WHY??? Why so much expectation for one day.. Why is all of the onus on men??

I’m VEXED by intellectually powerful “single independent black women” venting their frustration on receiving a text msg or email from male friends who wanted to say something nice to them either via txt or email..  it wasn’t that serious for most men… why did our female counterparts take it to heart so???

Here’s the problem, if that woman didn’t have time or space for you in her life and you sent her a nice gesture…. Then, hours later she’s griping about only receiving text msgs or emails??? Then maybe next year you just leave it and let Valentines Day come and go saying nothing. Point is if you’re not appreciated for the little things… why do big things??? It’s winter!!! Let the cold weather reign

GET YOUR HEART OUT OF IT…. Because at the end of the day it’s just like those valentines hearts that you got in elementary school…  The real question is why the outward lashing out… why the disappointment??....

Ask yourself this question gentlemen, who was the first person to text or email you.??? Chances are you sent the msg before you received one???

Second, for those who went all out w/ dinner gifts and whatever else… NOW WHAT.. are you going to stop loving that woman today?? I mean you went all out today… do you go back to the status quo today??? You get 364 days NOT to love her… and ONE day to compensate???? This is the dichotomy of Valentines Day… WE put so much effort into one day and none into the rest of the year?? It’s a bizarre quandary ???

My last point is for the women in relationships… WHAT DID YOU DO FOR YOUR MAN??? Or is it all about you? His sacrifices, time, commitment ect didn’t mean enough to you for you to do something for him??? You were so narcissistic that you couldn’t take a few days prior to think about him??

This may rub a lot of people the wrong way, some may never get to this point in the blog… However, relationships are never one way… not give/take… not 50/50… I don’t want 50% of anyone… I don’t want anyone taking from me… and I certainly don’t want someone so narcissistic that they believe a day to celebrate relationship is all about her?? C’mon Son!!!!

It’s now 02.15.2011… NOW WHAT… what do you do for the rest of the year to demonstrate your love… what type of effort are you going to put into your relationship for the rest of the year..

My point is Valentines Day should be the “above and beyond”… you should be loving that woman all year long… not just one day….

So… today 02.15.2011… it’s winter… what are you going to do to demonstrate your love for her today… or tomorrow… or the next day.. or the rest of the year…

Yeah… my bet is that you’re not even thinking about it.. ??? sad how love dies!!!

Editor - DNYC