Good morning Gentlemen.. I’d like to this morning talk about our female “friends”. BOTH those who we have romantic or sexual interest in as well as those women who we have platonic friendships with.
I want to address two different types of female “friend”
First, we’ve all had women in our lives at some point who said “We can be Friends”. This becomes problematic on two levels. For one if there was a romantic or sexual interest it could spell romantic death!!! Most men will subtlety persue that interest even if you agree to be “friends” with her. Men NEVER EVER EVER cast a woman to the side because she’s not interested in having more of a relationship. In general we’d rather have that woman near us even if at a superficial level then to not have her in our lives. Second, most men look at the “we can be friends” statement as an excuse by women who just can’t be honest in saying that they’re really not interested. This goes along with the ubiquitous “you’re like a brother” and the new for 2010 excuse “I’m bi-sexual/gay”
The paradox is women who say they want honesty then lie to you, but that’s a separate issue
Second, lets discuss Platonic female friends.. Those you have no sexual or romantic interest in.. the round-the-way girl that you’re just cool hanging out with.. She knows your flaws, knows your character, and knows you perhaps even more than you know yourself. This is the woman who sees your heart and you see hers. You can go out for drinks with her, and talk for hours about life, and even the relationships you’re both in and the trials and tribulations of that. Perhaps because you're thinking with your lower head you can't see that she's the embodiment of all of the qualities you're seeking
Here’s the dilemma!!! Which woman should you really be considering?
I’m a firm believer that two people should develop a friendship before entering into a relationship. Yes there must be chemistry and romantic love. However, The glue that binds the relationship is your friendship with that woman. All to often we get married have kids, house, bills and even build a life, skipping over the friendship phase. Both men and women believe that all of those other things are the ties that bind.. yet sadly they're not.. it's the Friendship!!! You MUST enjoy that woman's company if you're going to have her with you at 90yrs of age... In that marriage we get comfortable and take that person for granted never understanding that we should enjoy each others company.
Does that woman make you laugh, smile, can she share your joys, successes, pain. Will she be there when you’re not having a good day, or when you’re at the top of the mountain of success..
Fact is Gentlemen, the woman you should be falling in love with… is your best friend. Look around, who else would you rather be spending the rest of your life with!!!
In the end, when I’m 90yrs old, GOD WILLING…. I want to be sitting on the porch drinking sweet tea with my sweetie.. my best friend!!!
Just something to consider
Editor… DNYC
I agree with you. I've gotten the "best friend" card from someone and its cool and it not cool at the same time. Many of us "best friend" girls know that we are prolly the ideal for you, becaus like you said, we know you better than anyone else, but until you realized it, we have to play our role and watch you fumble around with all the wrong ones, and listening to the stories about it..which can be annoying sometimes, but as your best friend, we endure:)
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